"Say No... To The Hoe"

Anyone can write a blog on How To Be or How Not To Be a "Hoe", "Whore", "or "Heaux". 

This right here: Is the Blog that will tell both sides of reasoning to why not to Hoe-Around, and/or not to even attempt to turn a 'Hoe' into a 'Housewife'. 

It began with @yashaunya (via Twitter.com) wanting me to set the record straight because apparently Women are getting out of control with the removal of clothes on camera, the increase in public indecency, and the sky rocketing statistics showing that more women are seeking rank, status, and respect via "Nakedness".

*Slaps On Hand* NO! No Ma'am... 

From a Female Perspective: 

Hoeing isn't a way to gain any type of respect. A man will have you behind closed doors, but don't be mad when the Company's Christmas Party comes along and you're in awe because dude's wife is back on his arms. 

Yes. Sex Sells. Sex and Nudity will ensure a cash flow... For now. You are only as famous as far as your next wrinkle, Botox, and booty injections. Your videos will only go as far as your Gag-Reflex. 

Please don't get it twisted.  

Every woman has a bit of 'Whore' in her. There is a place and a time. The phrase 'Lady in the streets and Freak in the Sheets' goes a LONG way, and it's there for a reason: Men do not want to be seen with the woman that 9 out of 10 of their homeboys have 'smashed'. 

From a Male Perspective (and Yes, I have gotten a male's perspective):

It's not every man's dream to be with a 'Hoe'. Just as a woman wants to have the 'American Dream', men want someone to Take Home To Momma, and be seen with in public. 

Just as Drake said: I don't want to be seen with anybody that's been with everybody.

It's true. The Video Hoes, the Twitter Ass Shots, Facebook Fans of Booty... Will get you as far as the distance between the  mouse and you getting their hand to make a fist in their laps.

If that gives you satisfaction... If you feel as if you have control over a man because you have control over a stiff member... Then I do seriously feel sorry for you. 

A woman's role can be mind boggling, creative, and exciting with clothes on... Not to mention, a Heck of a Lot More Powerful. 

A woman with a brain can do far more than a woman with just 'ass'. 

(Not saying that having both can't work either *LOL*)

So to those who are reading this: Please Take Heed and Spread the Word: Say No To A Hoe and Save The Human Species.

"Ignorance is Bliss"

My friends and I have had a debate over whether or not it’s okay to go through a man’s things.

Granted, I have been there, done that, and no…I will never again.

Their side is: Why wouldn’t I want to know whether or not my guy is cheating? I deserve to know. I need to know whether I’m wasting my time.

My side: “Ignorance is Bliss”.

I wouldn’t want to ruin my happiness even if it was there. Not to say if something was thrown in my face I would ignore it, but, I’m not going to panic over “what if’s”…

If he puts his phone on silent, then he does. If he doesn’t answer the phone, he doesn’t want to. If he doesn’t call, he’s busy. He’s doing something he either needs, or wants to do. Question is: What are you doing? He’s giving you space to do things you want or need to do, respect his time.

(Same Goes For Man v. Woman)

As for wanting to know whether or not I’m wasting my time: Save it. If I am happy, then I’m sufficient in my ignorance. My happiness will never be a waste of my time. A waste of time would be finding passwords, cracking codes, etc. #DoingTooMuch!!!

A lot of people waste their time and energy raveling through things to find what may or may not be there.

Be Grown: Worry About Thy Own, and You’ll See That You’re Fulfilling Each Day With Bliss.

Titles Specified

One of my good friends asks one day: What should you expect or not expect according to different titles of a relationship. What should a persons' role be in such titles?
--For example what should a wife do, a girl friend do, a "just a fling" do, etc.

Here's My Answer:

I. A 'friend': --This person is there to talk to and confide in. Issues with a personal problem? Call a friend. Dependent on what kind of friend that person is defined as (a good friend or associate/comrade) that person may or may not know certain situations you go through daily. That person to have fun with, call to go out and party, go for a ride, road-trips, random outings to bars, bowling alley's, and at the same time, picks up when you call/text and is an ear when you have to vent.

Emotionally that 'friend' is there for you. Should be one to motivate you, party with you, give you a different insight on things that you see in 'tunnel vision'.

--Warning: This does not involve physical feelings toward the other person. Should any such feelings evolve: See Part II.

II. 'SEX': --Can be divided into 2 parts:

IIA:: Making 'Love' -- This is when two people get to know each other and have sexual intercourse with a certain ingredient called 'passion'. Sometimes the 3 words come into play and other times they are just understood without having to say it. This may or may not lead to Stage III dependent on many things such as : If the sex was good/great/ill: If one person was/wasn't passionate and the other was/wasn't: If one person wants to actually move on to Step III or if they considered it to be Step IIB, and would like for it to stay that way.

II B. 'Cut Friends'' --Term used when no emotion is included in sexual intercourse. This term is mainly used while describing 'quickies', 'one night stands', and 'cut buddies'. This term is easily misunderstood by one party as Stage IIA. and should be clearly defined in stone by both parties before starting this sort of a umm... 1/2 relationship. LOL.

III. 'Girlfriend' -- This is the friend relationship that is lead with passion. This term is used when 2 people confide in each other the most. Emotional companions that are starred #1 in each others' phones and in the 'five fave'. The person they call the most when they go through things. The 'best friend' with passionate benefits to make the other person 'happy'. This is when 'understanding' comes into play. You take the other persons' emotions into consideration before speaking/acting. Girlfriend title may or may not come with the word Love attached, but it certainly does come with a commitment, which should also be disclosed at the time of decision making between two peoples' relationship.

Not to be confused with Stages IV and V... although it can lead there.

IV. 'Lover' --This stage is the VIP of all stages. Why? Because it needs to be handled gently. One break can ruin the entire relationship- crumbling all stages(aside from 'fucking' in which this level would have never been reached).

This is the stage where two people confide completely and solely into one another. Trust to call them in certain situations and rely on them should something go wrong, emotionally, physically, and any other vital life function that life entails.

To fulfill this stage...

• Trust has to be 100%. Communication @ 110%.
• This stage is usually broken when one person breaks the trust of another.
• Even when both parties continue, without proper communication and trust, they will fail.
• If and/or when handled properly, this Stage could turn into engagement and marriage.

If not: 'A broken heart can lead to a fatal heart'.

V. 'Wifey'/'Hubby'/'Marriage' --Not to be taken lightly: This is an oath under God.

A wife plays the role of Best Friend, Lover, Mother.

A husband is the peacekeeper, the glue, lion, provider, king. He is the confidant in the entire family.

Neither role can be taken lightly and should be fulfilled in it's entirety.

Two people unionize before God and promise to love each and respect each other in such a way that they will never part. Until Death Do You Part.

A Wife/Husband should both be there for one another in times of need in any aspect. Two people become one, and what affects one, will affect the other.

So There ya go!

Go LaLa! (Damn that sh** was long-and to think...I shortened it! I still have a lot more on that subject!)