One of my good friends asks one day: What should you expect or not expect according to different titles of a relationship. What should a persons' role be in such titles?
--For example what should a wife do, a girl friend do, a "just a fling" do, etc.
--For example what should a wife do, a girl friend do, a "just a fling" do, etc.
Here's My Answer:
I. A 'friend': --This person is there to talk to and confide in. Issues with a personal problem? Call a friend. Dependent on what kind of friend that person is defined as (a good friend or associate/comrade) that person may or may not know certain situations you go through daily. That person to have fun with, call to go out and party, go for a ride, road-trips, random outings to bars, bowling alley's, and at the same time, picks up when you call/text and is an ear when you have to vent.
Emotionally that 'friend' is there for you. Should be one to motivate you, party with you, give you a different insight on things that you see in 'tunnel vision'.
--Warning: This does not involve physical feelings toward the other person. Should any such feelings evolve: See Part II.
II. 'SEX': --Can be divided into 2 parts:
IIA:: Making 'Love' -- This is when two people get to know each other and have sexual intercourse with a certain ingredient called 'passion'. Sometimes the 3 words come into play and other times they are just understood without having to say it. This may or may not lead to Stage III dependent on many things such as : If the sex was good/great/ill: If one person was/wasn't passionate and the other was/wasn't: If one person wants to actually move on to Step III or if they considered it to be Step IIB, and would like for it to stay that way.
II B. 'Cut Friends'' --Term used when no emotion is included in sexual intercourse. This term is mainly used while describing 'quickies', 'one night stands', and 'cut buddies'. This term is easily misunderstood by one party as Stage IIA. and should be clearly defined in stone by both parties before starting this sort of a umm... 1/2 relationship. LOL.
III. 'Girlfriend' -- This is the friend relationship that is lead with passion. This term is used when 2 people confide in each other the most. Emotional companions that are starred #1 in each others' phones and in the 'five fave'. The person they call the most when they go through things. The 'best friend' with passionate benefits to make the other person 'happy'. This is when 'understanding' comes into play. You take the other persons' emotions into consideration before speaking/acting. Girlfriend title may or may not come with the word Love attached, but it certainly does come with a commitment, which should also be disclosed at the time of decision making between two peoples' relationship.
Not to be confused with Stages IV and V... although it can lead there.
IV. 'Lover' --This stage is the VIP of all stages. Why? Because it needs to be handled gently. One break can ruin the entire relationship- crumbling all stages(aside from 'fucking' in which this level would have never been reached).
This is the stage where two people confide completely and solely into one another. Trust to call them in certain situations and rely on them should something go wrong, emotionally, physically, and any other vital life function that life entails.
To fulfill this stage...
- Trust has to be 100%. Communication @ 110%.
- This stage is usually broken when one person breaks the trust of another.
- Even when both parties continue, without proper communication and trust, they will fail.
- If and/or when handled properly, this Stage could turn into engagement and marriage.
V. 'Wifey'/'Hubby'/'Marriage' --Not to be taken lightly: This is an oath under God.
A wife plays the role of Best Friend, Lover, Mother.
A husband is the peacekeeper, the glue, lion, provider, king. He is the confidant in the entire family.
Neither role can be taken lightly and should be fulfilled in it's entirety.
Two people unionize before God and promise to love each and respect each other in such a way that they will never part. Until Death Do You Part.
A Wife/Husband should both be there for one another in times of need in any aspect. Two people become one, and what affects one, will affect the other.
So There ya go!
Go LaLa! (Damn that sh** was long-and to think...I shortened it! I still have a lot more on that subject!)
